:) I really am super happy that this tumblr is providing support for people. I am glad you are gaining confidence. You’re welcome!
In the West, female hair growth is a particularly interesting subject. Certain women, one could say emancipated, or who consider themselves emancipated do not subscribe to these beauty ideals. In some cases, they will deliberately allow their facial hair, their underarm hair to grow out. The legs will be enshrouded in hair, as will the arms.
In some cases, these women are disparaged by other women still well-ensconced within the lens-vision of patriarchy, as dykes, butch etc when in truth, not all women who choose to disregard such restrictive norms are gay.
Is it a self-perpetuating vicious cycle? Do women do it for the men, and the men in turn, cannot move past such superficialities. Men have been said to call armpit hair, “disgusting” whereas sometimes the most “disgusting” specimens of hair growth can be seen on men! It seems by this argument perfectly legitimate to ask a man to remove his bodily hair. However, this is quite rare, because interestingly enough, the male bodily hair symbolizes masculinity; that elusive yet much required trait in the male of the species.
A woman, then is making herself more feminine for male approval by removing hair. It is a deeply rooted ideal in consciousness that women adhere to.
Amongst the rural women, in Pakistan hair removal is not amongst the number one things that they do. Moustaches are not uncommon. Are they then the more emancipated women in a country that represses its woman? If we are taking hair removal as a symbol of emancipation, then certainly. However, it seems rather superficial.” —The Curious Case of Female Emancipation in the Context of Pakistan
When I first grew out my goatee, I found myself running in and out of the grocery store; if I saw people I knew, I would try to hide and get to the next aisle so they would not see me. I was scared. I was scared of rejection or of someone saying something mean. I just did not want to find out that these sweet people might reject me or be as mean as strangers have been. I also felt that I may have to explain myself to them or justify myself and I did not want to do that. This fear of rejection comes and goes. Sometimes I can walk over to the neighbor’s house and say hello, sometimes I cannot. There are still a few businesses I will not ever; I just do not want to face it yet.
Although fear still holds me back at times, a shift in thinking is taking place; I am acknowledging that it is their problem, not mine. I have little to do with their reaction or the feelings evoked in them by my appearance. I am slowly letting myself off of the hook or being responsible for their reactions; I do not have to justify or explain myself to anyone.
This shift in my thinking has moved me from being passive and people pleasing to angry and resentful. As I moved through this shift, walking into women’s bathrooms got easier because instead of shying away from women, or feeling bad or allowing their reaction to rule how I felt, this new self emerged. This “Fuck you, I am a woman no matter how I look and you can kiss my ass if you have a problem with it” self came out kicking and screaming…the teachable moments were gone.” —How Facial Hair Influences Women’s Everyday Experiences by Debra Anne Beechy
What would you like to see more of on this tumblr? It’s important that I know what you want so you can see that content on your dash! I know we all want more people to submit their personal stories and photos but I can’t provide all of that, you need to. But what else can I do for you? Let me know. Be specific if you can.
My mustache is a mark of character. Fuck yes.(via lavenderlines)
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From the Age. February 11, 2010
An Arab ambassador called off his wedding after discovering his wife-to-be, who had worn a face-covering veil whenever they met, was bearded and cross-eyed, the Gulf News reports.
The envoy had met the woman only a few times, during which she had hidden her face behind a niqab, the paper said on Wednesday.
After the marriage contract was signed, the ambassador tried to kiss his bride-to-be. It was then that he found she had facial hair and was cross-eyed, it said.
The ambassador told an Islamic sharia court in the United Arab Emirates that he was tricked into the marriage as the woman’s mother had shown his mother pictures of her sister instead of her, the report said.
He sued for the wedding contract to be annulled and also demanded the woman pay him 500,000 dirhams ($156,330) for clothes, jewellery and other gifts he had bought for her.
The court annulled the contract but rejected the ambassador’s demand for compensation.
The report did not identify the ambassador nor give any further details.
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Your mom? Your cousin? Sister? Singer? Actress? Best friend? Yourself? What lady inspires you to look past the social norms and love bearded/hairy ladies?
I don’t know of a hairy legs tumblr! If someone knows of one please send a message my way and I’ll post the link. If there isn’t any maybe you should start one. :) In the meantime I’d be happy to post it here, it’s not a problem.